Checking In On Your Family Mission and Goals

Checking In

If you’re anything like me, you start the year with great intentions – setting goals, making plans, making this the year your family really comes together to make a difference.

And then life happens.

I really do think it happens to almost all of us. Raising children is a busy, time-consuming lifestyle that can sweep all those dreams for the year into the corner where they gather dust. We just don’t have time to think about them between church activities, school programs, practices and concerts and games, right?

We also cannot afford to NOT think about our family mission and goals as the year goes on. A family mission is not a one-time thing: it is HOW your family operates, WHY they do what they do, WHAT you are all about. Fellow Tommy Nelson Mommy Angie wrote a fabulous post about setting family goals back at the beginning of this year – you can read that here. It is just as important to do regular check-ins on your family mission and goals as it is to set them in the first place!

In the book Raising Your Kids to Love the Lord, Dave Stone shares the story of a nine-ton barn being moved in Nebraska by 344 people. I love the commentary Stone provides and how it can relate to my family and our goals:

How did they do it? Everyone shared a common goal. The load was evenly distributed. There were no superstars. As a team they all moved in the same direction. And together they accomplished the impossible.

Now that we are halfway through the year {YIKES!}, it is a great time sit down with the kids and do an assessment of the status of the family mission and goals. An evaluation as a family is important because…

• It brings the mission and goals back into focus
‌• It helps determine whether the activities of family members are in line with the mission and goals
‌• It gives everyone a chance to think about their part in and commitment to the mission and goals
‌• It provides direction for the rest of the year

The family mission should be visible somewhere in your home. We are still tweaking ours to be “just right” but as soon as it is, it will be made into a large piece of artwork and become a focal point in our home. If the mission is something you all see every day, it’s hard to stray off course! Because your goals list will probably be much longer than your mission and not hanging for all to see, a mid-year check-in is a good time to bring out the list from the binder or notebook it is in and start crossing things off!

Here are a few questions to ask during your mid-year family mission meeting:

What are we doing that fits well with our mission?

Start with the positives. Get a dry-erase board or large piece of paper and brainstorm the things your family is already doing that represent the heart of your mission. Encourage family members to brag on one another. This sets the tone for an uplifting meeting, even if you have some hard things to discuss following this question.

What do we need to eliminate that doesn’t fit with or distracts from our mission?

This might be the most important question you ask during your family meeting. There are SO many fun things we can say yes to, but they aren’t all what’s best for us, for our family, for our mission. And this is why you need to look at your mission often. If something in your schedule is keeping you and your family from the mission you laid out, it needs to go. As the parent, you may want to think about this before the meeting and have an answer ready to share with your children as an example. You are not asking only them to give up things – this is about the whole family and that includes you.

What were our biggest “wins” so far this year?

Get out that list of goals and start checking things off! And someone met a big goal that wasn’t on the original list, let them add it AND check it off! Make it a celebration! Checking things off will give you great momentum for the next activity…

What goals do we most want to go after next?

After checking off goals met, take another look at your family goals list and let everyone choose one or two that are most important on which to move forward. Maybe a few of you will choose the same one and that gives a great opportunity for teamwork! A long goal list can be very overwhelming, but choosing a few key ones to tackle next is very motivating!

I want to encourage you to pray with your family before and after this meeting.

Your family mission and goals should not be all about your plans and what you want most, but about the Lord – His plans, His glory, His kingdom. Commit the meeting to Him and pray for His leading at the beginning. Close with prayers of thankfulness of what He has already done and what He will do in the coming year, asking Him to bring all of you strength to do His will!

Your Turn

Does your family have a mission and/or goals? How often do you talk about them and evaluate how you’re doing?

Erin MohringErin Mohring:Lover of Jesus, family, home. Wife, mommy, writer, runner. Erin finds joy in her life as a Jesus-follower, doctor’s wife, mama to three handsome guys, writer at Home with the Boys, and co-founder of Raising Boys Media.
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