The Smallest Goals are Sometimes the Biggest

I can hardly believe the school year is almost over.

Depending on what area of the country you live in, you could already be planning summer camps, family vacations & neighborhood cookouts.

Yet instead of focusing on the fun that lies ahead over the coming months, I find myself feeling retroactively guilty.

What do I mean by that?

The end of school serves as a reminder of all the things I didn’t accomplish over the year: the piano lessons I never taught my kids, the Bible verses we didn’t memorize, the chore charts we never completed and the play dates we never made.

I remember having such visions of organization last August. It was to be the first year I’d have two kids in school full time, so the possibilities were endless. I imagined my kids would be successful household managers – mastering self-control as they learned how to do laundry, cook at least 5 meals by themselves and organize their toys by size & color.

I also had lofty goals for myself. I figured I could easily write a book, launch a few ‘how-to’ and ‘best-of’ video series, finish every photo album I’d missed from years past, clean out the garage from the last three moves and become the proper Southern wife my husband always dreamed of having.

But then I had to get real.

I had similar emotions right before my first child was born; I actually recall telling someone, “I don’t know what I’m going to do with all my time once the baby is born!” (No joke).

Perhaps no-one felt comfortable enough telling a first time mom who was 8 months pregnant that she was crazy to think that she’d accomplish anything other that taking a shower by herself once a week and successfully taking the diapers from the changing table to the trash! But it was the same feelings of delusional super-powers I embraced then as I did at the beginning of this school year.

But when push comes to shove, it will most likely be decades before they ever recognize whether I wrote a book or finished a photo album. What they will realize tonight is whether or not I played tickle monster with them after dinner or read them a story before bed.

Their expectations are minimal, but the rewards are endless.

It’s not to say my goals are not worthy or worthwhile, but simply a check to encourage and challenge you to actually stop and ask your kids what matters to them. Chances are you’ll find that they’re much more concerned with family fun night & making forts with you at home then they are about having you work late so you can afford an exotic family vacation.

Always remember, just because the goal may not seem as big in your eyes does not mean it’s not infinitely important in the lives of your children.

In fact, if you’re looking for the perfect book to share with your kiddos in time for Mother’s Day that summarizes just what is important in the eyes of your child, read the sweet words of Amy Parker in Thank You, God, For Mommy. I guarantee you will make more time for hugs after this one!

What are you looking forward to making time for this summer?


With a passion for teaching and mentoring others as her inspiration, Sami Cone began blogging in 2009 to encourage others to live their dream life and pursue their passions. A published author and seminar speaker, she draws on her experiences as a writer, editor, university professor, performer, professional athlete, and pageant winner to help women realize their full potential in life. Sami appears regularly on TV & Radio as a Frugal Expert and has been blogging for Tommy Nelson since 2010. Sami and her husband of seven years, Rick, thrive in Nashville with their two children.