The first week after starting fourth grade at the local public school, my daughter came home asking about a certain girl in particular. Instead of simply listening to my daughter talk or asking what she needed from me, I immediately launched into fix-it mode.
Worried that she’d heard yet another inappropriate word or, worse, was being bullied, I started asking detailed questions. Instead, Kariss assured me that the classmate in question was kind, but rather she was worried about her. When I asked why, Kariss told me the girl wore the same outfit every day.
She went on to describe how other kids often made fun of this classmate and wondered why she wouldn’t just change clothes. As you can imagine, it launched us into a powerful conversation about how her family may not have enough money to buy several outfits each for her and her siblings.
But rather than focus on the classmate’s financial situation (which Kariss couldn’t directly affect), I instead chose to direct our conversation on her classmate’s emotional response (which she could affect through her own response).
Sometimes our kids don’t see how their one life can ever make a difference in the grand scheme of things, so I broke it down for her this way:
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