Today, we have our Tommy Mommy extraordinaire, Sami Cone, on the blog! We hope you enjoy her posts. Sami is a wife and a mom of two precious kids, Kariss and Britton. She blogs over on SamiCone.com, she tweets, and you can check her out on Facebook too!
How many times have you become easily angered at your kids for having to tell them the same things over and over again?
I’ll be the first to step up and admit that having to constantly remind my kids to do the everyday activities we expect of them is one of the things that infuriates me the most. Whether it is telling them to make their bed, reminding them to say please or spelling out their after-school routine, the repetition grates on me. I just can’t wrap my head around how my kids can forget to take their plates to the kitchen after dinner, but they don’t forget the toy they want for Christmas ten months from now.
I turned to Philippians to read chapter two this morning because I felt like my children were acting really selfishly yesterday. I wanted to remind myself of the verses below so that we could memorize them together as a family (again!):
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” – Philippians 2:3-4
However, I didn’t stop reading at chapter two. God prompted me to keep reading on to chapter three, and here is what I read in verse 1:
“Whatever happens, my dear brothers and sisters, rejoice in the Lord. I never get tired of telling you these things, and I do it to safeguard your faith.”
Once again, God reminded me that parenting is less about my kids’ behavior and more about my own attitude.
Did you catch that?
I want so badly to change my kids that I fail to see the direct correlation between their actions and my attitude.
Do I always understand things the first time they’re taught to me? No.
Do I ever need to be reminded more than once to do something? Yes. (Just ask my husband and he will happily confirm that!)
Why do we so often hold our children to a different standard than we hold ourselves to? (Or hold ourselves to for that matter). If it’s not a problem for Paul to write the same things over again, it certainly shouldn’t be for us to do the same for the purpose of safeguarding our children.