I have to say February is probably my least favorite month. It’s cold and dreary in Nashville and it’s very well established that I’m not a fan of cold… unless there is snow on the ground and skis on my feet!
But right when February is at it’s coldest and dreariest there comes Valentine’s Day right smack in the middle. All the red and pink really brighten things up around here and lift our spirits. Pete and I have never been big Valentine’s Day people, we celebrate our love 365 days a year so why focus on just one day? Haha… sorry, I couldn’t resist poking a little fun at cupid. Honestly, we’re not big Valentine’s Day people because we hate fighting crowds. We’d rather cook a great steak and enjoy the treat of a loaded baked potato after the kids go to bed. Kick back and enjoy a little peace and quiet in our home, wearing our pajama pants and watching a movie laying on our comfy couch. I think the term I’m looking for is “homebodies.”
Now our kids are big enough to enjoy the holiday… aren’t most things more fun through our kids eyes? So we usually do pink, heart-shaped pancakes for breakfast and try to make some homemade decorations.
When it comes to love and actively showing our kids love I think one of the best ways to do that is through prayer. Sincerely coming to God expressing our desires, concerns and support for those closest to us. Here’s what that looks like in our family.
*Saturday evenings are pretty routine around here. My husband is a pastor and Sundays are so busy that Saturdays are scaled back. We have a low-key dinner, I give the kids baths while Dad studies, then we usually play a game of cards or watch an episode of “Wipe-Out” before everyone heads to bed about 8:30 and I chill out by myself. But a few months ago we decided to shake things up a bit. We had all piled onto one couch (which is one of my favorite family things) and were just kinda wrapping up the day together when Pete asked us to pray for him. So at that moment we stopped, taught our kids how to lay hands on someone and we all specifically prayed for their Daddy and the church. It wasn’t planned, but it sure was precious.
Granted our kids are 10, 7 and 5 so prayer time lasted about 5 minutes. But hearing Jett say, “Thank you God that Dad gets to help change so many lives” was a one of our sweetest family moments. My favorite prayer for their Dad came from Gage a few weeks ago when he prayed “Dear God, help Dad not sweat too much on stage tomorrow.”
So the mini-tradition has continued. It’s become part of our Saturday night routine to stop what we’re doing and pray together as a family specifically for Pete. I love the focus it brings to our evening and the excitement about what the next day might hold. I love that it’s helping teach the boys that being a part of God’s work is an honor. And I love going before God together as Team Wilson.
*We pray every morning on the way to school. Together we come up with three prayer requests then each boys takes their turn to pray and I wrap things up. I love that this habit has taught them God cares about the “small” things as well as the big… school tests, our Compassion child, Sammie, their friendships, their teachers, their teachers’ families, their attitudes towards those they encounter, someone’s pet, and even what will be on their lunch menu.
*Pray for their future spouses. This is a big one for me. I pray for my future daughters-in-laws in private as well as in front of my boys. Let’s face it, in the next 15-20 years we’ll add three girls to our family, that’ll be a blast… and an adjustment. I pray God already begins to knit their hearts together as sisters and as friends. I pray they are raised in a home that loves and honors God. I pray God will join them as one with their mate and carry them through the good times and give them the strength to fight through the bad.
*And the prayer I most often pray for my children is God will grow them together as brothers and as friends. Another prayer I pray privately as well as in front of my boys. They get tired of hearing me say, “Friends will come and go, but a brother is here forever.” I pray for their unity for a lifetime. One of the greatest gifts I can receive is seeing my children develop friendships, laughing together, supporting one another and seeing them walk through life together.
Those are some practical and easy ways we show love for one another through prayer.
What’s one way your family prays for each another? I’d love to hear your ideas.
Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Romans 12:13
PS… This post by Priscilla Shirer “God’s Words Spoken Over Our Children” is a great resource for praying over your children.
Brandi is a wife to Pete and a mom to Jett, Gage, and Brewer. Her life is truly “Brandi & Boys.” Brandi has been a pastor’s wife for almost 15 years. She and her husband planted Cross Point Church in Nashville, Tennessee in 2002. Brandi has a heart for women in ministry and co-leads a ministry for pastors’ wives at LeadingandLovingIt.com. Brandi loves to be organized, but hates to clean and ice cream is her favorite food.