My son lied to me a few weeks back.
It wasn’t anything “big,” but it was a lie. And it was the perfect timing to talk to him about my history with lies.
I can remember quite clearly telling lies in the first grade initially to look cooler and fit in. From there, the lies grew to cover up anything I might have done that would make me look bad or get me in trouble. I justified them as they were not “really hurting anyone,” but that just made it easier to let the lies grow.
For my young son, he didn’t need a long list of my past experiences with dishonesty. But I believe God did give me that opportunity to be honest with him about my own struggles and my prayers for him in the same area.
When our children make a mistake, especially one we know well from our own shortcomings, we have an opportunity to use honesty to our advantage and to theirs as well.
In my case, I wanted my son to know that he was not the only one in our family who had fallen into the trap of dishonesty. We talked about how lying had started small for me when I was not much older than him, and how it continued to grow until it was hard for me to stop.
My friends, from a situation that had made me quite upset to begin with, that little guy and I had the best discussion that day. Maybe I was imagining things, but when I opened up about my sin, his countenance lightened and he realized he was not alone. He started to talk about times in the Bible where people lied and even quoted back to me a Bible verse we had studied quite long ago on the same topic!
What a blessing to have God redeem my struggles with dishonesty in a moment of raw honesty before my child! And He is making those moments available to you as well – at just the right time, your honesty may be just the thing God uses to help your child overcome a sin or get through a hard time. Put away your pride and let Him work in your brokenness!
Have you experienced a moment of humbling honesty with your child? What was his or her reaction?
Erin Mohring is a follower of Jesus Christ, a doctor’s wife, and stay-at-home mom to three lively young boys. The hubby and Erin have been blissfully married for nine years. Big J is six, Little J is almost four, and Double J just joined the fam in March of 2012! She’s learning quickly about life in the world of boys – which you can follow at Home with the Boys!