A Prayer from a (Sometimes) Single Parent

prayer from a sometimes single parent

Have you ever heard of the expression “tour widow”?

I hadn’t either before I became one.

It’s an insider term for what much of the music industry calls the wives of musicians who go out on tour for weeks or months at a time, leaving them home alone or to care for their children.

I remember the first three week stint my husband left on as a tour manager and left me as a single parent: I thought I was going to lose my mind.

I actually did well for a while. I liked not having to make big meals every night or, to be honest, think about someone else all the time. I could watch what TV shows I wanted after I put the kids in bed while working on my computer. In some ways, it was nice to have that mental break.

But then we hit day ten.

The novelty of doing this parenting thing on my own and working late into the night had worn off and I instead just became tired and full of self-pity.

Voices in my head told me it wasn’t fair to have to work and care for the kids and clean the house and take care of running the household.

By week three, I’d build myself up to be a martyr, joining the ranks of women whose husbands were serving us overseas.

The truth is, I just tasted a very small glimpse of what single parenting is like, when, in actuality, millions of parents live this life day in and day out.

Knowing that my perspective was limited, I asked a friend (who is no longer single, but was single for awhile) to speak to what she felt was the biggest need, prayer and misconception of single parenting. Here’s what Jamie said:

Biggest need: more time in the day.

Prayer: to be able to meet my child’s needs.

Misconception: that you should feel sorry for a single parent….most of the times yes, they are the victim, but they need compassion and help, not pity. I want my children to know that relationships are not perfect and the only relationship we can fully depend on is the one with Jesus. Relationships die, people in relationships die and/or go away, but Jesus is always there. I also want my children to know that even though relationships end, that you should still have them and “go for it” so to speak and not live in fear that it WILL end.

So as we begin this New Year, I offer this prayer for anyone who has ever experienced life as a single parent:

Lord, be more than I ever could be,
Meet the needs of my children before I could anticipate them and beyond my capacity to fill them,
Place others in their life who will teach, guide and train them,
And replace any weariness and guilt with peace, patience and prosperity.

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0718016319As we enter into 2015 and all the hope that a new year brings, the entire month of January here at TommyNelson.com will be dedicated to prayer. Each week we will be praying for three specific types of parents. There will be prayers for expectant mothers, prayers for mothers of boys and girls and teens and small children. Prayers for homeschooling mothers and single parents. We hope these prayers meet you where you are and encourage you in a special way!

Please join us in using the first month of this year to pray over your family, your children, and yourself!

Also this month, we are celebrating the release of Lucado Treasury of Bedtime Prayers: Prayers for bedtime and every time of day! Max and Denalyn firmly believe that prayer is the foundation of a believer’s life, and they hope that this book will introduce your children to a lifetime of conversation with God! Learn more about the book HERE! 

Sami Cone is a blogger (SamiCone.com), radio host & TV correspondent mentoring others to live their dream life on less and pursue their passions. She draws on her experiences as a writer, editor, university professor, performer, professional athlete, and pageant winner to help women realize their full potential in life. Sami is the author of the best-selling "Raising Uncommon Kids", is known as the "Frugal Mom" on Nashville's top-rated talk show "Talk of the Town”, hosts the nationally syndicated “Family Money Minute”, and educates over a million listeners every morning on radio's "Family Friendly Morning Show". She is proud to call Nashville home with her husband, Rick, and their two children (a daughter & son) who are 19 months apart. Website URL: http://www.samicone.com/

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About Sami Cone

Sami Cone is a blogger (SamiCone.com), radio host & TV correspondent mentoring others to live their dream life on less and pursue their passions. She draws on her experiences as a writer, editor, university professor, performer, professional athlete, and pageant winner to help women realize their full potential in life. Sami is the author of the best-selling "Raising Uncommon Kids", is known as the "Frugal Mom" on Nashville's top-rated talk show "Talk of the Town”, hosts the nationally syndicated “Family Money Minute”, and educates over a million listeners every morning on radio's "Family Friendly Morning Show". She is proud to call Nashville home with her husband, Rick, and their two children (a daughter & son) who are 19 months apart. Website URL: http://www.samicone.com/