4 Ways to Honor a Grandmother’s Legacy

I’m not sure why, but I have been thinking about my mom a lot lately. She passed away in 2013 after a devastating battle with pancreatic cancer. My biggest fear back then was that my daughters, 2 and 5 at the time, would not remember their grandma.

If you have also lost your mom, you know what I’m talking about. You know the pain of not being able to call when you need to and of having your kids forget the most important person in your early life.
I’m sorry for you.
In a lot of ways, my fear has come true.
My older daughter remembers the wonderful bond she shared with her grandma. She remembers the things they did together and how her grandma made her feel special, and she feels the hole left behind in her absence.
My younger daughter doesn’t remember anything. She doesn’t remember walking hand in hand with Grandma or climbing up in her lap or how Grandma found her so silly. All she knows is what she’s heard from stories.
Those precious stories make up my mom’s legacy, the sum of her spirit that lives on in all of us.
The beautiful thing about legacy is that you can start honoring your mom’s legacy now – whether she is on the earth or not.

4 Ways to Honor a Grandmother’s Legacy

  1. Make a photo book. Photo books are inexpensive and easy to put together. Work with your kids, one on one, to gather photos and memories of their grandma and upload to your favorite photo site.
  2. Read a book about grandmothers. I recently had the opportunity to read Thank You God for Grandma, and I thought it was very special. I read it to my girls, and it reminded the older one of all the things she loved about her Grandma in Heaven. For the little one, it helped to suggest some memories to replace what she’s lost.
  3. Tell stories, lots and lots of stories. Even though it’s sometimes hard for me (oh the tears), I spend a lot of time talking to my kids about my mom. I keep her alive for them by telling about the gardening they did together and how she loved the monarch caterpillars along the sidewalk.
  4. Be sad. It’s okay for your kids to see you cry, even though it probably makes them uncomfortable. My kids hate to see me cry. They protest loudly when I cry. But I still do it because I am human and because I miss my mom. It’s good to model for them how to be sad and remember good stuff at the same time.

YOUR TURN!

What are some ways you are honoring the legacy of a lost grandparent?

Tara Ziegmont is a homeschooler, former high school astronomy teacher, Certified Writing Specialist, and software Project Manager. She has blogged at Feels Like Home since 2007, where she helps women to celebrate their beautiful, messy lives. Tara and her husband are raising two crazy daughters (ages 8 and 4 1/2) and live an old-school back-to-basics frugal lifestyle near Harrisburg, Pennsylvania. Website URL: http://FeelsLikeHomeBlog.com